Less Naked More Better

Have you heard of Rabbi Shmuley? Kosher Sutra? I have not read his books but I have seen Rabbi Shmuley on The Today Show a few times and he intrigues me. This week I heard him talk about how women should remain mysterious for their husbands.

Read what his response is to the following question, taken from his website http://bit.ly/AArhO:
If women are such sexual beings, why are so many marriages lacking in sex?
Because too many husbands kill off their wives’ libidos by failing to focus on them, and too many wives allow their sexuality to atrophy by treating themselves as ordinary. Take the number of wives who will go to the bathroom in front of their husbands, or parade around the bedroom naked. After a while, their bodies lose their erotic magnetism. Couples dare not grow too familiar with each other. There has to be something off-limits, something forbidden, in order for it to remain erotic.

Now, there are several things that struck me here, the first being that wives treat themselves as ordinary and the second about parading around naked.

How do I treat myself as ordinary? By not enjoying my femininity. I have scoffed at those who take so much time doing their hair and prided myself in getting ready quickly, using minimal product, sporting a ponytail every day. I'm all for the natural, easy, not taking yourself so seriously look. How exciting is that? How about the jeans and t-shirt combos I tend to live in for comfort and practibility?

Do I parade around naked in the bedroom? Well, I wouldn't say parade, but...naked yes. Before I got married, I asked one of my married friends if she had any advice. She said, I wish I would have walked around naked more before I had kids because the body is never the same. I took that to heart!

After listening to the rabbi's interview, I dug through my drawers to find some long forgotten lingerie and wore it around the house. Without going into detail, can I just say "Wow"! First of all, I liked that I felt beautiful, sexy and mesmerizing. Secondly, I loved the animal it brought out in my husband.

Choices? I guess you could say deciding to wear more lingerie is a choice I will try to keep on making. The other choice that I made and have been doing well at keeping is trying to treat myself as more than ordinary. Don't get me wrong, I am not about to walk around looking like a southern belle all the time. But using some hair product and spending a few more minutes on getting ready in the morning is something I can do. Even on ordinary days, a coat of mascara and a dash of lip gloss make you feel good . Perhaps the Rabbi is right and if you treat yourself as more desirable, your husband will too.